Elda Othello-Wrightington

                                                    Happy Mother’s Day!

Sonsofthesea ministry is praying that “mom” in all her glorious forms and titles is celebrated and honored this weekend! May you enjoy a blessed Mother’s Day, and may every Word of Psalm 46 be your portion today and every day, Mom. “God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.” –Psalm 46:5. And, for those who want nothing more than to be with your mom today, our heartfelt prayers for the peace of Christ and His comfort to be with you all.

Girl. Daughter. Sister. Wife. Mother. Grandmother. Aunt. Widow. Single. Divorced. These are titles and experiences women may encounter or journey into at some point. Whatever title you wear or experiences you have had, you are a woman first. More importantly, God loves you, sees you, and has a plan for you.

Often, on this life journey, many women find themselves uttering, “Am I seen?” “Does anyone care?” We feel forgotten and unnoticed. We might find that we are comparing ourselves to other women; sometimes celebrating with them in their journey and success, but secretly saying to ourselves, “Well… what about me? When will it be my turn?”

Listen, daughter, God has a plan for you, too. His plan is tied to a promise. And here is the revelation of the promise: EVERYONE’S PROMISE LOOKS DIFFERENT! And although different, all experiences “work together for the good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.” –Romans 8:28, NIV.

Let’s look at two women in the bible, Sarah and Hagar. Both are mothers, yet their lives and motherhood journeys look different. Sarah was married to Abraham and had been promised a child. Yet for years, no child came. “Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an enslaved Egyptian named Hagar; so she said to Abram, “The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.” –Genesis 16:1-2.

Now that is desperation. I can understand Sarah’s desire to have a child. To have been promised a child and yet, because of her age and stage of life, her promise doesn’t come. I’ve been there. The idea of being able to conceive seems inconceivable and possibly painful. As the story continues, Abraham agrees with Sarai’s plan. The bible says, “He slept with Hagar, and she conceived. When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress.” –Genesis 16:4, NIV.

Can you imagine being Hagar? She didn’t ask for this; she was placed in the middle of their situation due to Sarai’s unbelief in her promise. Can you relate? How often do we find ourselves in someone else’s problem or situation that we had no business being in?

The plot thickens as Sarai blames her husband for her suffering and misery, as another woman is pregnant, and she isn’t. Not to mention, the bible tells us that Hagar despised her. As a result, Sarai mistreated Hagar and “so she fled from her.” –Genesis 16:5, NIV.

As the story continues, we read that God did not forget Hagar, even though the promise was for Sarah. God gave Hagar a promise, too. She wasn’t carrying the promise, but she was given a promise. “The angel of the Lord found Hagar near a spring in the desert; it was the spring that is beside the road to Shur. And he said, “Hagar, slave of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?” “I’m running away from my mistress Sarai,” she answered. Then the angel of the Lord told her, “Go back to your mistress and submit to her.” The angel added, “I will increase your descendants so much that they will be too numerous to count.” –Genesis 16:7-10.

This was Hagar’s promise, and in that moment, Hagar felt seen, heard, and validated. She gave this name to the Lord who had spoken to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.” –Exodus 16:13. You might be in a life season where you have experienced something similar or feel forgotten. Yet we learn from Hagar that God sees you, no matter how isolated you feel. And He can reveal much to you during your pain and desolate situation.

As the story continues, Hagar returns, and Sarai is still without a child. BUT GOD DIDN’T FORGET SARAI.

Can you imagine being Sarai and feeling like “my plan failed” as she watched Hagar raise her son, knowing things wouldn’t unfold as she had hoped. It was easy for bitterness and sadness to have settled in her heart.

Have you ever felt like Sarai?

Watching someone else experience something you wanted for yourself but didn’t get? Or more importantly, watching your plan for success does not go as planned. Can I encourage you, just like Sarai, God has not forgotten you; whatever it is the Lord promised you. “God also said to Abraham, ‘As for Sarai, your wife, you are no longer to call her Sarai; her name will be Sarah. I will bless her and will surely give you a son by her. I will bless her so that she will be the mother of nations; kings of peoples will come from her.” Abraham fell facedown; he laughed and said to himself, “Will a son be born to a man a hundred years old? Will Sarah bear a child at the age of ninety?” And Abraham said to God, “If only Ishmael might live under your blessing!” Then God said, “Yes, but your wife Sarah will bear you a son, and you will call him Isaac. I will establish my covenant with him as an everlasting covenant for his descendants after him. And as for Ishmael, I have heard you: I will surely bless him; I will make him fruitful and will greatly increase his numbers. He will be the father of twelve rulers, and I will make him into a great nation. But my covenant I will establish with Isaac, whom Sarah will bear to you by this time next year.” –Genesis 17:15-21.

In Genesis Chapter 18, three visitors confirm that Sarah would have a child. “Now Sarah was listening at the entrance to the tent, which was behind him. Abraham and Sarah were already very old, and Sarah was past the age of childbearing. So Sarah laughed to herself as she thought, “After I am worn out and my lord is old, will I now have this pleasure?” Then the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh and say, ‘Will I really have a child, now that I am old?’ Is anything too hard for the Lord? I will return to you at the appointed time next year, and Sarah will have a son.”

How often have we heard the lord drop a word into our hearts?

A word of encouragement concerning our situation, and it just seems too good to be true. Too hard to believe. I believe that’s where Sarah’s heart was. She was to the point where she laughed when she heard it. Daughter, you might be there.

But can I encourage you to dare to believe and hold on to the promise God has dropped in your heart once more?

At last, Genesis chapter 21: 1-2 tells us, “Now the Lord was gracious to Sarah as he had said, and the Lord did for Sarah what he had promised. Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him.”

Finally, Sarah receives her promise. She gives birth to Isaac, the promised child. She is happy and filled with love and laughter, yet something continues to unsettle her. Hagar.

I wish the end of the story were that both women lived together in unity, having received their promises. Both raise their children together as one family. But it doesn’t end that way. Unfortunately, Sarah still feels threatened by Hagar and her son. Once again, Hagar is asked to leave. But this time, Hagar is asked to leave instead of going on her own. “And Abraham rose up early in the morning, and took bread, and a bottle of water, and gave it unto Hagar, putting it on her shoulder, and the child, and sent her away: and she departed, and wandered in the wilderness of Beersheba.” –Genesis 21:14.

Once again, Hagar is placed in a situation that might have brought up feelings of rejection, abandonment, and feeling forgotten. Yet the beautiful thing about God is that although we may forget what He has told us, He never forgets His promises!

Even in the desert, God heard Hagar’s son crying.” “God heard the boy crying, and the angel of God called to Hagar from heaven and said to her, “What is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid; God has heard the boy crying as he lies there. Lift the boy up and take him by the hand, for I will make him into a great nation.” Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water. So she went and filled the skin with water and gave the boy a drink. God was with the boy as he grew up” –Genesis 21: 17-20, NIV.

In closing, there are many lessons we can learn from both women.

One: We don’t have to help God out. When he promises you something, wait on Him; His timing is perfect. We need to hold on to what God has promised us.

Two: We might feel forgotten or abandoned and wonder how we will make it in that new season of raising a child, starting a new career, or leaving that tricky situation. Remember, God has not forgotten you! He has a promise for you, too. He is El Roi, the God who Sees, and will meet you exactly where you are.

If you’re reading this and somehow you still think that God doesn’t have a promise for you, well, He does. The promise that He has for you is eternal life. The bible says in John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”. That is the ultimate promise, and it doesn’t look different to everyone. It is the same for anyone who believes and receives it. Will you receive the promise of everlasting life today?