The all too familiar saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is just plain wrong. Ask anyone who has suffered a tongue lashing from one who is verbally abusive. Words can, and often do hurt. Even those spoken inadvertently. Our words have the potential to turn a friend into a foe and to momentarily break the strongest of Spirits…
While reading verses 22 through 36 of John, Chapter Three, the carelessness of the words spoken in verse 26 struck me. Instantly, the term “friendly fire” came to mind. According to Wikipedia friendly Fire is defined, in part, as; An inadvertent attack by a military force on friendly or neutral troops while attempting to attack the enemy.
Whether it was the group of the religious leaders of the day, led perhaps by Nicodemus, Jesus’ nighttime visitor (vs. 23), or John’s own disciples that were speaking in today’s verse is up for debate. What our Scripture does make clear is, whichever the group, they apparently saw Jesus as competition. The closing words of today’s verse certainly alludes to that fact. “And everybody is going to him instead of coming to us.” That said, what we may never know for certain is whether their words were intended to spark jealously within John or, were they testing his loyalty? Had underlying insecurities perhaps, driven them to speak in such a self-interested manner? Only God knows the intentions of a man’s heart. And how does any of this in any way connect to friendly fire?
In short, words. The power behind our words. Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say –Proverbs 18:21. Remember brothers and sisters, we as believers are soldiers. And, from the moment the Lord called us to join in the battle until the day He calls us home, we will never leave the battlefield. Let us then be ever vigilant, friends. Not allowing ourselves to be lulled into thinking that simply because we stand behind the pulpit, are active in ministry, lead the team, or are heading up the committee that the enemy of our soul isn’t circling right there next to us. That he isn’t prowling, watching and waiting for any opportunity to discredit us, to use any word spoken in haste as a weapon to wound a fellow brother or sister. Even our anxious words, spoken half unawares.
Never forget our enemy’s sole mission is to take us out, to discredit us, use our every careless or inciteful word to cause wounds in another that may cut so deeply they’ll walk away bruised and bloodied. We’ve each, at some point in our Christian walk, experienced friendly fire, if not, we’re bound to. We’re surrounded with people who, much like ourselves, will fall short and be hurtful. For me personally, knowing our propensity to wound each other lends added weight to our brother Peter’s words to the Church Elders…
Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour –1 Peter 5:8.
So with this in mind lets reread the definition of friendly fire: An inadvertent attack by a military force on friendly or neutral troops while attempting to attack the enemy. But what is an inadvertent attach? Inadvertent is defined by Webster as; not resulting from or achieved through deliberate planning. Being unpremeditated, thoughtless or careless. Friendly fire, though not deliberate, has the potential to be as deadly as the bullet aimed intentionally at the heart. And in listening in on the conversation of those who were speaking to John, we hear words that have this potential to maim and destroy as surely as any misdirected bullet or bomb does. In not recognizing Jesus as one of their own, these men failed to understand that any conflict, any fallout that may result from their attempting to stir John up would, in fact, be, friendly fire.
Evil words destroy one’s friends; wise discernment rescues the godly –Proverbs 11:9
John, however, appears to have escaped being wounded in this exchange. The closing verses of this chapter make that clear. John knew who he was. More importantly, he knew who Jesus was. He was not threatened by Him in any way. Rather, he delighted in Jesus. He was humbled to have been chosen to serve Him at all. Perhaps it was, in part, this Divine revelation of just who this Jesus is that had shielded John from the effects of the friendly fire that whizzed all around him?
When we are willing to bow low in the service of our God, to forsake all for Him that we may gain Him, to shed, let go of, our egos and titles and the recognition they may bring our way and simply be used as one delighted to draw the attention of others solely to the Lamb of God that walks among us still—He then, delights in blessing us. Not in some, we earned it way, rather as a Father who delights in loving and blessing His children. What daddy doesn’t want to keep his children safe? Jesus is, after all, our fortress and our shield. His Mighty Hand ever covering us that no weapon formed by the enemy of our souls will either prosper nor thwart His plan.
In John, we see a man not wishing to be anything other than the best, most faithful, diligent, and, submissive version of himself he can be—Scripture makes this plain. But rather than taking my word on this, listen instead to what John has to say concerning himself and His Lord. Go ahead, draw in, I’m certain he won’t mind your listening in: …”You yourselves can testify that I said, ‘I am not the Messiah but am sent ahead of him.’ The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the bridegroom’s voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete. He must become greater; I must become less.” The one who comes from above is above all; the one who is from the earth belongs to the earth, and speaks as one from the earth. The one who comes from heaven is above all. –John 3:28-31.
In the perilous times in which we live, in this hour of darkness and deep confusion we must know who we are in Christ, our purpose. Just as John did. Know this friend, no man’s careless words can take from you what God has for you, whether great or small. Stand firm then in your calling, hold down your place on the battlefield. God sees you and He has a purpose and a plan for your being exactly where you are. John understood this. He rested in it. Don’t allow another’s insecurity, doubt, indecisiveness or fear-filled words to cause you to duck, shrieking back! Not even friendly fire can take us out, if, like John, we’ll just hold fast to God knowing, “A person can receive only what is given them from heaven” –John 3:27
Friend, if you are with us today and have yet to ask Jesus into your heart, don’t wait another moment. We never know what’s coming just around the corner. My hope is that you’ll take the time now to invite Him into your life. “because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved” –Romans 10:9-10. But don’t stop there friend. Find a Bible-based church and attend. Read Gods Word daily and grow in your new relationship with Him…
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